Becoming UnBusy™ http://becomingunbusy.com Ditch Stuff. Live Life. Wed, 19 Sep 2018 00:40:56 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8 How to Free Yourself from the Grind http://becomingunbusy.com/free-yourself/ Wed, 19 Sep 2018 00:32:56 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7594 Ah, the daily grind. The hamster wheel. The 9-5 sentence. There are many ways to describe the way many of us live our lives. The sad but true fact is that many people don’t love what they do every day. And if you don’t love what you do, going to […]

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Ah, the daily grind. The hamster wheel. The 9-5 sentence. There are many ways to describe the way many of us live our lives.

The sad but true fact is that many people don’t love what they do every day. And if you don’t love what you do, going to work is a chore. It’s something you must get through — something you must endure.

It’s all too easy to get caught in an unpleasant cycle of working to pay for a nice house to live in so that you can go to work and buy things that you don’t have time to enjoy because you’re working longer hours to pay for them.

As we get more money, we think we need more and more stuff, and then we feel like we need to earn even more money to keep up with the growing purchasing expectations society places on us. It’s a vicious and unrelenting pattern — and it’s reality for a lot of people.

Many people who feel trapped in this cycle might find themselves saying, “a different life sounds great, but I could never do that. You’re so lucky.

There’s also a tendency to vilify those who have found a way out of their own misery, or refer to them as irresponsible and flaky, as if being happy and following your heart is a bad thing.

I don’t mean to discount the very real privilege that can hugely impact different people’s life circumstances and options. But I do mean to challenge the way we think about success and freedom in modern America. Freedom and success can take many forms.

Let’s take a deeper look at this issue:

Saving Money

Saving money is the first step in freeing yourself from the grind. Take a hard look at your monthly expenses. How many of them are absolutely necessary? Be honest here and remember that “convenient” and “necessary” are two different things.

Could you pass up your Netflix subscription and downgrade your smartphone’s data plan to save a bit more each month? Could you give up the new car you’re making payments on to take public transportation or walk/bike where you need to go instead? Could you spend more time eating in and less money dining out at restaurants?

Look around your home. What are your assets? What would you be willing to part with to fund your quest for freedom? Selling items you already own is a great way to simplify your life and make money quickly.

Practicing Minimalism

Many people think that being free from the grind means restricting yourself in other ways. We live in a culture of never enough — never enough time, never enough money, never enough relationships, excitement, things, variety — you name it, we think there’s never enough of it. But it doesn’t take long to realize less is more.

Practicing minimalism doesn’t have to mean you live in a stark, white, tiny house and own only 15 things. It could mean that, but it doesn’t have to. A minimalist approach to home organization can help you sort through your clutter — both physical and mental — challenge you to get rid of things that aren’t serving you, and even help you save money. By reducing your needs, you can get the most out of the resources you do have.

Pursuing a Healthier Lifestyle

Health is one of the big reasons why people choose to change their lives and free themselves from the treadmill that always seems to be on. Modern lifestyles and work schedules make it difficult to prioritize health. But there are major consequences if we don’t.

“Many working professionals spend their careers being relatively inactive, spending time in front of computers, often for more than eight hours per day. This inactivity was less prevalent in the past, which surely contributes to the spike in weight gain,” according to Bradley University.

Physical activity, plenty of water, and healthy fruits and vegetables are all parts of the University of Southern California public health department’s list of things that keep people healthy. We cannot continue to sacrifice these things for longer hours and more emails answered.

Obesity and other health problems from inactive, computer-centric, stressed-out lifestyles impact our physical and mental well-being both at work and at home. We as Americans seem to enjoy this strange competition of who is busier and more stressed out, one-upping each other’s number of meetings, unanswered emails, and commitments.

Why is busy equated with successful? Why doesn’t successful mean happy, healthy, and present? Even if society’s definition doesn’t change, we can change it for ourselves and for those we love and care about.

Realizing What’s Important

The answer to the question of what’s really important to you will most likely change throughout your life. But hopefully, some things remain constant, like happiness, peace, and relationships.

Ask yourself what you would do if money was no object. Even if these things really are unattainable in your current set of circumstances, you can create a list of things to do to get you closer to accomplishing your goals. You don’t have to spend a year on the road or drastically uproot your life to make this change, since happiness cannot be entirely satisfied by outside influences.

Is money and a high-powered career as important as spending time with your kids and creating memories together? Is the ability to buy the latest iPhone worth being essentially handcuffed to the internet all the time? I think that if we all looked in our heart of hearts, the answers would be clear.

Freeing yourself from the grind is possible. You, too, can get off the hamster wheel and serve the last day of your 9-5 sentence. Enjoy the elusive simple life by cutting back your expenses and clutter to make room for what’s really important to you — whatever that is. Your life depends on it.

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Lettie Stratton is a writer and urban farmer in Boise, ID. A Vermont native, she is a lover of travel, tea, bicycles, plants, cooperative board games, and the outdoors. She’s still waiting for a letter from Hogwarts.

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Tiny Living: Gaining More from Life with Less http://becomingunbusy.com/tiny-living/ Wed, 12 Sep 2018 22:27:16 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7552 Tiny living simplifies family life and makes room for adventure. The benefits of going small are huge. Here are five things you should know about tiny houses. . . . Just a 15-minute drive down my street are fast food signs, McMansions, and 4×4 vehicles as far as the eye […]

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Tiny living simplifies family life and makes room for adventure. The benefits of going small are huge. Here are five things you should know about tiny houses.

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Just a 15-minute drive down my street are fast food signs, McMansions, and 4×4 vehicles as far as the eye can see. What do people use their 4×4 vehicles for in the middle of the city, anyway? It seems to me that the world is getting bigger right before our eyes, and some of us are interested in relief from it all.

There’s a growing movement of people who choose to live in tiny houses to break free from the clutter and noise of society. It’s more than a phase; tiny houses are here to stay. At only 500 square meters or less, these micro homes may be small but can be fitted with the comforts and amenities of a standard, residential home. Before we chat more though…

5 Things You Should Know About Micro Homes or Tiny Houses

Here are five things you should know about tiny houses.

1. Tiny houses can be on wheels or on foundations.

You could wake up to a new view every day or build upon a foundation. Your child needs to go to a new school? Your partner got a new job? Living in a tiny house on wheels makes this scenario possible.

Need to move closer to the grandparents? Consider a tiny guesthouse on foundations in their backyard! Whichever you choose is up to what works with your lifestyle. A smaller home makes it easier to focus on your needs as a family.

Tiny living simplies family life and makes room for adventure. The benefits to going small are huge. Here are five things you should know about tiny houses.

2. Tiny houses are designed to go off grid.

Getting away from it all is possible in a tiny house. Nature has a way of clearing the mind; allowing you to see the world in a different light (powered by the sun, of course). There are plenty of companies that make incredible solar kits and mini wood stoves to give your home the power!

3. You can live in a tiny house as a family.

Although tiny houses are small, they can also sleep more people than you think! Some custom tiny homes have double lofts that sleep two people each. A couch can also convert into double bed with creative cushion arrangement. While a smaller space is expected to feel cramped at times, a tiny house can also be a wonderful way to bond as a family.

4. You can cook and entertain in a tiny house.

Tiny houses may lack in square footage, but they allow for quality time with the people you love! A one or two pot meal with a few friends is lovely and cozy in a tiny house. You can always open the door for some fresh air, or eat outside if it’s a nice day.

5. There’s less storage space with tiny living.

For those who need a walk-in closet — maybe this isn’t the home for you. Tiny houses embrace minimalism and living with less “stuff.”

Think about the clothes in your wardrobe. Can you say that you have worn every item in the last few months? Making keep, give away, and toss piles are essential to living tiny. Getting rid of things might be hard, but decluttering your life is a feeling that is oh-so-nice.

Tiny Living — Gaining More from Life with Less

Tiny living can help you move toward an UnBusy Life by saving you money and time.

You can save money with a tiny house.

Tiny houses cost far less than a residential home. Additionally, ditching the mortgage payment is a welcoming idea to many. The extra money you save can go towards the things you care about — be that a charity, hobby, or a family travel.

You can save time with tiny living.

Less space means less time spent cleaning or deciding what to wear in the morning. If you have fewer options to choose from, you’ll find yourself less stressed in the decision-making process. Less stuff and less square footage means you can spend more time doing what you want.

Simplifying makes room for adventure, allowing your family to live tiny and big at the same time. #becomingunbusy #quote #tinyhouse #tinyliving #simpleliving #intentionalliving #lifebydesign *Loving this post on tiny houses and tiny living. So cool.

Live tiny and big at the same time.

Downsizing isn’t easy, and taking the leap to live tiny may not be for everyone. However, the benefits of going small are huge. 

It gives you the space to keep items that mean a lot to you.
It gives you the time to spend with loved ones in a more intimate setting.
It gives you room to breathe — despite being in a smaller space.

There is a lot to gain from choosing the tiny home lifestyle. Owning fewer things is freeing both physically and mentally. The tiny house lifestyle is a wonderful way of living that focuses on quality and living in a very big way. 

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Living small is a new trend, and we think it is one that needs to last. Building a house is an investment of a lifetime for most of us. We are dedicated to helping you optimize a tiny home and offering the best advice to fit your lifestyle. We think that living tiny is not just a trend; it is a mindset. Join us here: Website | Facebook | Instagram

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5 Reasons Your Kids Need You to Abandon the Busy Life http://becomingunbusy.com/abandon-busy/ Mon, 10 Sep 2018 14:14:03 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7532 “If you don’t have time for things that matter, stop doing things that don’t.” -Courtney Carver I was really good at the busy life. Well, the staying busy part that is. I mean, my laundry piled high, I was a frantic mess when I had to accommodate for sick kids, […]

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“If you don’t have time for things that matter, stop doing things that don’t.” -Courtney Carver

I was really good at the busy life. Well, the staying busy part that is. I mean, my laundry piled high, I was a frantic mess when I had to accommodate for sick kids, and my self-care and personal growth sat the bench. But boy did we keep moving.  For that, I was proud.

“Just a Minute”

One typical busy afternoon I gave my son the usual response. “Just a minute,” I said, for probably the fifth time that day. In my frustration with his lack of patience, I looked up and saw the exact same look in his eyes staring back at me.

He could have been waiting an hour to ask me for a cheese stick, to untie a knot, or how in the heck babies get inside bellies. I was too distracted by my busy life.

I began to wonder if all he’d ever been doing was giving me “just a minute.”

Since my busyness was actually for them, I figured the least they could do was just “give me one more minute!” After all, perfect motherhood takes time.

However, this busyness was causing me to miss the very life I was striving to craft. In the spirit of gifting my kids a high-quality childhood, I had forgotten that what they actually needed most was me.

The Land of Slow

I abandoned the busy life and set off in search of a present one.

Now when you’re so used to living at the fast pace of busy, slowing down to savor seems like a foreign language. It was kind of a culture shock really.

Every awkward, hesitant step, surprised me. Rather than boredom, I found curiosity. Instead of laziness, I discovered passion.

Even sweeter, it’s revealed a family closeness that can only be found in the slowness.

I’m more at home here than I ever was in the land of the busy. Here are five ways a slower pace has drawn me closer to my kids and given me the space to love them with purpose.

1. Longer Hugs

It seems like just yesterday I was on maternity leave, snuggled up on the couch with my firstborn watching Oprah. Since then, two other children have held that same spot on my lap, and Oprah? Well, she’s moved on to other things as well.

My babies aren’t babies anymore. If they climb up on my lap today, I have to endure the wincing pain of their bony knees and elbows protruding into my chest and thighs.

There were many days that came to an end and as the dust settled, I couldn’t recall if I’d actually touched my kids or not. Sure, there were head pats, shoe tying and quick hugs before school, but I’m talking really hugged them. Really sat with them, scratched their back or stopped in the middle of what I was doing to give them a mom-initiated embrace.

2. Eye Contact

Eye contact is just a simple, basic common courtesy, but the busy life makes me forget all about it.

I mean, I’m almost always with at least one of my kids. We chat and sing in the car together and I answer approximately eight bazillion questions a day. Slowing our pace showed me how little I actually look my kids in the eye.

Even now, if I’m not careful, if I’m not intentional, we will move through our day side-by-side, forgetting to turn face-to-face.

Seth Godin reminded me of the importance of eye contact in the book Tools of Titans, by Tim Ferriss. He said,

“Please don’t play the busy card. If you spend two hours a day without an electronic device, looking your kid in the eye, talking to them and solving interesting problems, you will raise a different kid than someone who doesn’t do that.”

3. Increased Patience

When I’ve overbooked our lives, my patience is the first to go.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve found myself frustrated with my kids’ lack of attentiveness, all to stop, listen to my own tone, and realize they aren’t actually doing anything wrong. It’s me!

I’m feeling frantic. I’m overwhelmed. I’m overbooked. It’s me, hurrying them along, expecting more than they have to give.

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4. Play

Independent play is vital for our kids. It stokes their imagination, problem-solving skills and curiosity. Most importantly though, it gives us the opportunity to get a few things done. Fist bump.  

However, with a slower pace to our day, I find not only do I have more time to play with my kids, I actually have a greater capacity to do so.

In all honesty, I may still dread playing house, or worse, Pokemon, but, I enjoy my time with my kids more. Rather than rushing through, I search for things we all love to do. You want to make homemade pretzels, create an obstacle course or build a fairy house? I’m your girl.

5. Direction or Discipline

It’s easy, especially with my littlest, to let bad behavior slide when I’m overly busy. I just don’t have the time to deal with it.

The same goes for guidance and direction. When my to-do list is jam-packed, I forget to hear their high and low for the day, and miss opportunities to check in with their hearts.

They need us to be available for discipline, direction, and guidance. We owe it to them. Friend, those are the moments that have a lasting impact on their character, self-worth, and problem-solving skills.

Slow Your Pace

Choose margin, slow your pace and be attentive to the things that matter most.

Life is already full of so many uncontrollable variables and hectic seasons. We must be intentional with the moments that are within our control.

Abandon the busy life and build a fairy house. You just may find it to be rather therapeutic.

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Meet Rachelle Crawford
of Abundant Life With Less. Rachelle is passionate about her family’s transition from clutter and chaos, to purpose and peace, through owning less. On her blog, she shares practical strategies to owning less, as well as insight into what happens in the heart when we ditch the excess and turn our attention toward what matters most. Connect with her online here: Blog | Instagram | Facebook.

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10 Ways Living Uncluttered Will Change Your Life http://becomingunbusy.com/living-uncluttered/ Fri, 24 Aug 2018 18:44:44 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7476 Every single day we have the opportunity to change our lives towards UnBusy. Here are ten ways that living Uncluttered will change your life for the better. I want to share a simple truth with you — the path to becoming UnBusy has more to do with your STUFF than […]

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Every single day we have the opportunity to change our lives towards UnBusy. Here are ten ways that living Uncluttered will change your life for the better.

Maybe the life you've always wanted is buried under everything you own. #minimalism #quote #becomingunbusy *Loving this quote and this article

I want to share a simple truth with you — the path to becoming UnBusy has more to do with your STUFF than your calendar.

When you think of finding more time, your first instinct to turn to your calendar, right? I cannot tell you how many apps I’ve tried over the years to better organize our family’s time in search for UnBusy. When we look at our calendars to find time, we’re overlooking the underlying problem. The truth is that the biggest time-suck in our lives is our STUFF.

Our STUFF calls us to wash it, fold it, dust it, sort it, fix it, and clean it. Before we know it our stuff has kept us hostage and our life has disappeared into thin air. — Emma Schieb

Our things cause you to be busy in ways you’d never even expect. Not only does maintaining things take time, STUFF often forces us to stay in jobs we dislike, encourages credit card debt, and clutters our lives.

I “met” Joshua Becker, founder of Becoming Minimalist and creator of the Uncluttered Course (a 12-week collaboration intentionally designed to help you own less and live more) online in 2008. When I say met, I mean… I stumbled across all the fantastic resources he offers online. It was life changing for our family.

At that time, our family led a busy, chaotic life, we owed over $80,000 in debt, and my marriage was stressed because we were living paycheck-to-paycheck. We were constantly juggling time, paying mounting bills, and honestly… wondering how we’d gotten ourselves into this position. I can tell you how we GOT OUT of that position.

How Living Uncluttered Changed Our Life

Here’s how living uncluttered has helped our family become UnBusy:

We began our journey to UnBusy by decluttering our STUFF — This is an eye-opening process when you realize that everything you own used to be money. Participating in something like the Uncluttered Course can elicit dramatic change in your family’s life over the course of twelve weeks.

We started to see our STUFF for what it was — And stopped trying to keep up with the Joneses. (They’re broke, anyhow.)

Living Uncluttered changed our relationship with our STUFF — Which allowed us to pay down all our credit cards, be debt free, and adjust our schedules. The greatest thing money can buy is financial freedom and time.

Have you been feeling unknowingly weighed down by all your STUFF too?

Although we changed our habits towards STUFF over ten years ago, I participated in the Uncluttered Course this spring as a refresher. It was reinvigorating.

If you’re ready to ditch the burden of STUFF and seriously begin your journey towards Becoming UnBusy, this is a great starting point. The course keeps you on task with weekly challenges, videos, interviews, practical tips, accountability and an engaged Facebook community. By the end, you will have decluttered every major living area in your home.

One of the best parts of the Uncluttered Course is the support you receive from, not only the live webinars but the private Facebook community. Over the 12-weeks, I was encouraged by community members sharing photos and comments about their progress, along with tips that helped them overcome struggles, as well as ongoing day-to-day encouragement.

10 Ways Living Uncluttered Will Change Your Life

Becoming UnBusy is more about your relationship with STUFF than your schedule. As Joshua Becker said, maybe the life you’ve always wanted is buried under everything you own. 

As you take the Uncluttered Course, you learn that less is more in life.

Less debt, more living.
Less spending, more savings.
Less cleaning, more connecting.
Less junk, more quality.
Less lost, more found.
Less work, more purpose.
Less house, more home.
Less mess, more guests.
Less stuff, more freedom.
Less busy, more calm.

Less clutter, more time.

Here’s the catch… Uncluttered is only offered three times per year. The next session begins September 3, 2018. Perfect time as the kids head back to school, and as we head into the holiday season. This is the ideal moment to step back and make a serious step towards and UnBusy life with your family. Registration closes September 2 so check it out today to ensure you don’t forget.

If for any reason you aren’t able to complete the autumn session, you can take it on the next round in the new year for no charge. Once you’ve registered for the Uncluttered Course, you’re a member for life. Every time I re-read or re-watch one of the lessons, we’re at a different spot in our journey, so I find something new.

You can sign up for Uncluttered through our affiliate link and use our friends and family discount (FF25) for 25% off at checkout. The cost of the course is usually $89. But with the 25% off, the 12-week course is just $66.75.

Save 25% On Your Lifetime Access

*If you purchase this awesome course through the link we may receive a small commission at no extra charge to you. All money generated by these links support the Becoming UnBusy Movement. We’re thankful you’re part of this community!

If you have any questions about the course or our journey towards Becoming UnBusy, pop into our Facebook group and let us know. We’d love to chat with you!

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How To Slow Down Time, Backed By Science http://becomingunbusy.com/slow-down-time/ Fri, 10 Aug 2018 22:14:22 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7430 It’s easy to get into a rut of routine and fall into predictable patterns. Life becomes a blur; a hamster wheel of repetition. Break the script and learn how to slow down time with these three simple tips.  . . . Three years ago, our family moved from the suburbs […]

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It’s easy to get into a rut of routine and fall into predictable patterns. Life becomes a blur; a hamster wheel of repetition. Break the script and learn how to slow down time with these three simple tips.

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Three years ago, our family moved from the suburbs of a major city to the small town of Traverse City, Michigan. We desired to slow down, spend less time working and more time living, and raise our three young girls in a place that empowered an outdoor, adventurous lifestyle.

High on my bucket list was to do more camping, which was a favorite activity of my childhood, but was something I had not done with my own kids. Before our move to northern Michigan, our family vacations had been more of the typical variety—time spent on the beach in Florida or exploring big cities.

When we moved, we purchased a small, vintage camper, and headed to Michigan’s Upper Peninsula for our first camping trip as a family. It was a rustic, rugged affair—a no-frills campground deep in the forest on the shores of Lake Superior. And it was magical.

From the sights and the smells to the sounds and the textures, I remember almost every moment of the trip in vivid detail. I can still taste the s’mores, smell the campfire, and feel the frigid lake water lapping at my ankles. It was a trip full of first moments.

Our recent trip to Florida, on the other hand, is a bit of a blur. Some memories are clear, but I have a hard time distinguishing last year’s spring break trip from past ones. On the surface, this seems odd.

After all, one trip was three years ago, while the other was just six months ago. So what’s the difference?

Why does one experience leave such a lasting impression?

It’s likely due to the same reason that time seems to slow down when you’re young and speed up as you get older. The novelty of an experience impacts how your brain perceives it.

David Eagleman is a neuroscientist and author who studies how our brains perceive time. In an article in the New Yorker, he explains that our brains process familiar information quickly. But when new information is introduced, it takes our minds longer to organize and synthesize the data, making the experience more memorable. The memories made from fresh and exciting experiences are so dense and vivid that they create the perception we are actually slowing down time.

Numerous studies have been conducted in which older adults have been asked to recall their most vivid memories. Overwhelmingly, these memories relate to experiences that took place from ages 15 to 25. This phenomenon is called the “reminiscence bump.”

When you’re young, everything is new and novel. You’re engaging in “firsts” at a rapid pace: first kiss, first time driving, first day of high school and college, first job, first travel without your parents.

The novelty of these “first moments” slow down time and creates rich memories and therefore the time periods of high school and college seem like they lasted forever. It’s when everything seems varied, new, and novel—hence, the reminiscence bump.

On the other hand, four years during your forties can feel like it goes by in a flash. As you get older, it’s easy to get into a rut of routine and fall into predictable patterns. There’s very little pattern interruption.

In other words, there’s nothing to “break the script.” Life becomes a blur; a hamster wheel of repetition. The worst part: While repetitious days drag by, life speeds away.

So, what’s the best way to break the monotony, slow down time, and create more meaningful memories? In our experience, the best way to slow down time is to purposefully and intentionally pursue more “first moments” in life.

3 Ways to Slow Down Time Through the Power of More “First Moments”

David Eagleman referred to time as “a rubbery thing.” What he was getting at is that while we can’t stop the passage of time, we can mold our perception of it. We can interrupt the patterns of our lives by introducing more novelty and new experiences into them, and create more memories born of first moments, and derive more meaning from them as a result.

Here are three ways to slow down time and start incorporating more first moments into your life:

1. Keep it simple as you get started.

There’s no reason that the majority of our first moments need to take place during our teens and twenties. We can engage in firsts at every stage of our lives.

First moments come in all sizes—from something as simple as cooking a new recipe for dinner or exploring a new hiking trail. While a trip around the world will undoubtedly be an exciting adventure, it’s tough to pull off, so if your ambitions are too grand, you may spend more time dreaming than doing.

Keep things simple, and start by trying to incorporate more first moments into your everyday routine.

Live life less out of habit and more out of intent. #quote #intentionalliving #lifebydesign #becomingunbusy *Loving this post about slowing down time. So good.

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2. Be intentional with your calendar.

It’s important not to look at new, novel experiences as spontaneous occurrences that happen to you, but rather as things that you make happen. Life is busy, and time is a vacuum that will be filled with other people’s priorities if you don’t set your own.

To ensure that we don’t let time slip away, at the start of every season we write down the first moments we want to experience, both personally and as a family, in a journal. Then we block time on our calendar so that nothing else gets in the way of these essential priorities.

The battle for our hearts is fought on the pages of our calendars. #quote #parenting #lifequote #becomingunbusy *Love this whole post about slowing down time. So good.

3. Record and review new experiences.

At the end of the day, and at the end of our lives, our memories of time spent doing things we enjoy with people we love are all we have.

  • Take great pictures to capture your first moments.
  • Write about your experiences.
  • Share your stories with others.

Documenting and sharing will not only slow down time, help forge your own memories, but it will also inspire others to experience first moments.

A photography is the pause button of life. #photography #quote #intentionalliving #becomingunbusy *Loving this post about how to slow down time. So good.

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Break the Script & Slow Down Time

Life is short and it can pass you by if you let it. Sometimes you need to break the script to appreciate what’s in front of you, to see what’s possible, and to slow life down.

Do something new every day.

Look forward to your “something new” every day.

First moments have the power to change us and slow down time. After all… life is nothing more than a series of moments. So plan more first moments that matter, both big and small, into your life.

When was the last time you did something for the first time? #quote #lifequote #becomingunbusy #intentionalliving *Loving this post on slowing down time with first moments. So good.

Be sure to check out Life & Whim — Live Big Through Small Moments

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Meet Jay Harrington — Life & Whim

Jay Harrington is an author, reformed-lawyer-turned-entrepreneur, and along with his wife Heather runs a northern Michigan-inspired lifestyle brand called Life and Whim. He lives with his family in Traverse City and writes weekly about living a purposeful, intentional, and outdoor-oriented life on his blog. Find them online here: Website | Facebook | Pinterest | Instagram

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3 Simple Ways that Minimalism Reduces Anxiety  http://becomingunbusy.com/minimalism-reduces-anxiety/ Wed, 25 Jul 2018 16:12:20 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7417 One unexpected side-effect of getting rid of clutter and changing your focus away from “stuff” is that minimalism reduces anxiety. Below are three ways minimalism could help calm your nerves. . . . Think about the last time that you’ve felt anxious in your life. You know the feeling I’m […]

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One unexpected side-effect of getting rid of clutter and changing your focus away from “stuff” is that minimalism reduces anxiety. Below are three ways minimalism could help calm your nerves.

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Think about the last time that you’ve felt anxious in your life. You know the feeling I’m talking about, right? Your hands start to get a bit clammy, you might begin to break a sweat and it suddenly feels as though a weight of about 50 pounds has settled down to nest on your shoulders…

We’ve all been there at one time or another.

While those thoughts and memories may not always be the fondest to think of, try thinking about WHAT exactly was making you feel anxious. Was it something in the room, or the vicinity that was causing those walls to start closing in?

For me, it’s clutter. Items that are out of place or crowding everything else create a simple chaos in my everyday life.

Once I realized that “things” were creating havoc to my inner peace, I knew it was time to let go. While I’m not claustrophobic, I was allowing items to slowly start to take hold and make me feel cramped.

I don’t recall the exact moment in my life that minimalism “clicked”, but I’ll always be thankful that it did. I haven’t always lived a minimalist lifestyle. I used to be part of the rat race, the hamster wheel and the thought that I needed to keep up with the Jones’s. I was one of “those”.  And while many of them are still some of my dearest friends, I can honestly say I miss nothing about that lifestyle.

Now, instead of heading to the store to shop away my emotions, I spend my time making memories with my family enjoying time together. I love the fact that once I decided to live a minimalist lifestyle, my family lifestyle improved as well.

We all seemed to slow down once we got rid of the clutter. It was almost like the moment that we “trashed” our belongings, we “repurposed” our family bond also.

For many people, minimalism means to live with less while feeling as though they aren’t missing out on anything. Living a simpler life is appealing because it takes away a lot of the stress and anxiousness that revolves around trying to keep up with the persona of the day-to-day that everyone is expected to live.

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Remember this: Clutter comes from good intentions, but poor execution. Everything that I’ve ever owned, or bought I felt at that moment I actually needed. In all reality, none of us actually NEED things. All we need is each other.

3 Ways that Minimalism Reduces Anxiety

1. You’re no longer stressed to buy items you can’t afford.

I’m going to share one little tip that I wish I would have learned early on when I started to live the minimalist lifestyle…Buying only what you need instead of stressing over items that you want is so freeing.

Living a simpler life paints a different scenario and outcome. The needs for frivolous items is no more and when those needs and wants are gone, it takes away the anxiety of over-spending or wondering just how you’re going to pay off that impulse purchase that you just made. Buying only what you need is a great way to reduce your anxiety.

2. Your mind will suddenly become crystal clear.

It’s no secret that clutter causes anxiousness. If you look around your house and it’s packed full of “stuff, that cramped feeling will start to slowly overtake you. How can one truly feel relaxed if every space of your home is covered with an object or some sort of trinket?

Try a little test and see if decluttering your space will make a difference in your anxiety level. Choose one room in your home and declutter. Literally, take almost everything out of it except for a few items. Give it a few weeks to see how you feel when you enter that room and work through the emotions.

If you feel peace and calmness when you enter that room, that’s a huge indicator that your stress level and anxiety are down and it’s time to start implementing the minimalistic approach throughout the other rooms in your home.

3. You’re free to be your own person.

Living a minimalist life means that you DON’T want to be like everyone else. If you think about all the people that you come in contact with on a daily basis, it’s simple to see that everyone lives their own life and spends their money differently.

Instead of having a feeling that you have to keep up with them and their buying and spending approach to life,  you’ll find that your feelings of anxiety will be gone because you are no longer are putting that pressure on yourself to try to live how you think others think you should.

It’s time to ask yourself the hard question about what is truly causing your anxiety and then plan on moving forward in finding alternatives to simplifying your life. Once you realize that you can truly live more with less, you’ll find that your days and outlook on life will suddenly start to take a turn in a positive direction. The sooner that you can understand that owning “things” won’t make you happy, the sooner that you’ll be able to rid those feelings of anxiety that are hanging around as well. Be brave, be bold, be a minimalist!

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3 Super Simple Ways that Minimalism Saves You Money http://becomingunbusy.com/minimalism-saves-you-money/ Thu, 21 Jun 2018 18:48:40 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7377 Minimalism not only changes your outlook on life, but also effects your pocketbook. Below are three ways that minimalism saves you money. . . . Living the minimalist lifestyle is a growing movement. Families and individuals all over the world are starting to realize and come to an agreeance that life […]

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Minimalism not only changes your outlook on life, but also effects your pocketbook. Below are three ways that minimalism saves you money.

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Living the minimalist lifestyle is a growing movement. Families and individuals all over the world are starting to realize and come to an agreeance that life isn’t about the number of materialistic items you own, but about the memories that you make with your friends and family.

Is it possible to live with less? Absolutely.

Not only can you simplify your life, but minimalism will save your family money.

Maybe the life you've always wanted is buried under everything you own. #minimalism #quote #becomingunbusy *Loving this quote and this article

3 Super Simple Ways that Minimalism Saves You Money

Here are three ways a minimalist lifestyle will help save you money!

1. You start to forget the Joneses.

Getting caught up in the thought process that it’s a “requirement” to keep up with the Joneses can be expensive.

We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like. #minimalism #truth #quote #debtfree *So true. Loving this post

When you decide to live your life as simple as possible, you truly learn how to live more, with less — more experiences, more memories and more happiness.

The great thing about simplifying your life? You learn that you don’t need to buy items to bring happiness. And when you don’t feel the need to buy items, that results in you saving money.

When you simplify your life, you simplify your desire to keep up with the Joneses.

2. You start using cash again.

Living minimal means that you use cash (or your available budget) to purchase your must-need items instead of relying on credit cards to live your daily life.

Wants and impulse purchases with credit cards are a quick way to overspend and bust the bottom line of your budget. Buying on credit is one of the fastest ways to throw away your hard-earned money.

Say you use your credit card to buy something on sale. You’re going to spend the money that you just “saved” paying interest fees to the credit card company. It is an easy trap to get stuck in, but we can all agree it makes no sense. Why give the credit card companies your money by paying them interest?

Forget sales price. Everything is 100% off if you don't buy it. #minimalism #debtfree #quote *Loving this quote and this article

Paying in cash for items that you truly need is a super simple way to save money. When living a minimalist lifestyle, credit cards quickly become the enemy.

3. You start to truly comprehend the difference between needs and wants.

To be successful in your journey, you have to understand what it will take for you to live within your means and needs. While half your body and brain may want you to have fun and impulse buy and spend money on your wants, the minimalist side of you begins to truly understand the difference between want and need. It can be a hard line to balance but gets easier over time.

Needs are important, wants are not a necessity. The quicker you can cut out that spending on those frivolous wants, the quicker you’ll start saving money each and every month.

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Dip your toe in the water of minimalist living.

For the next thirty days, try to minimize your wants and focus on your family’s needs. Also, start saving receipts on EVERY purchase your entire family makes — groceries, gas, eating out, gifts for birthday parties, medications, bills, the whole nine yards.

At the end of the month, pull out that stack receipts from your shoebox, wallet, and purse and make a huge pile. Here comes the eye-opening part … you’re going to look at where your money went for the last month.

Our family used the free Dave Ramsey budgeting tool, Every Dollar, the first time we did this. I was shocked by how much we spent eating out (which I’d have said we never did if you’d asked me), on one-off coffees, and also how much we spent on Amazon movies.

When you watch and KNOW exactly where your money is going it inspires you to make changes. By cutting out the extra’s in your life and paying only the needed bills, your pocketbook will start to fill up quickly with all the money that you’ll be saving.

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Cutting down on the ownership of items allows you to focus more on family time. Memories seem like a simple choice over “stuff,” right?

The sooner that you can embrace everything that the minimalist lifestyle has to offer, the sooner that you’ll start living a life full of ways to save money and eliminate a lot of the added pressures and stress of the world!

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It’s Okay That You Didn’t Do Today ‘Like a Boss’ http://becomingunbusy.com/like-a-boss/ Wed, 09 May 2018 02:15:00 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7316 We can find our self-worth in so many things. Our body shape, our grades, our income, the size of our house, and how many likes our last Instagram photo received. For many years I have found my worth in busyness. From the outside, looking in, people might think, ‘she’s a […]

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We can find our self-worth in so many things. Our body shape, our grades, our income, the size of our house, and how many likes our last Instagram photo received.

For many years I have found my worth in busyness.

From the outside, looking in, people might think, ‘she’s a go-getter!’, or describe me as driven and focused. But I’ll tell you a secret.

I’m just a little girl who has always felt that the more I’m doing the better I am. That a busy schedule means I’m important and therefore, that I’m okay.

This feeling of being okay with myself is at its highest when I’m productive, working on multiple task lists, and have a full calendar.

Busy is never finished.

But the feeling never lasts. The goal posts always move. I’m never busy enough or taking the best opportunities. The work is never done (where is the bottom of my laundry pile!). So the striving continues.

And that’s when I wind up on the kitchen floor, surrounded by mess, demanding children and pets, and belittled by my perceived failures.

And it’s here, in this mess that I have to remind myself, again, being busy does not define my worth.

Here on the floor, I have to tell myself that it’s okay that the house hasn’t been cleaned or the lego is still on the floor from yesterday, or that we ran out of milk again. It’s okay that the washing hasn’t come in off the line and is getting damp, again. It’s okay that the kids are getting an ‘easy’ dinner, again. It’s okay because today I’m choosing to love myself for who I am and just be still.

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Accept the UnBusy.

Accepting myself in stillness is probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But this path to self-worth has been the most sustainable and gratifying of any others I’ve walked. Taking a few moments of stillness and silence to tell myself that I’m okay, and tomorrow is another day is the best gift I can give myself.

It’s not necessarily the busy in itself, but it’s what we do with the busy that matters. We can use it as a yardstick against which we measure our worth, or we can choose busy intentionally, only to serve us when we need it.

3 Ways to Accept Yourself, in Stillness and UnBusy Periods

1 | Become friends with stillness and quiet.

I’m an introvert, so in some ways, this one comes easier. But even you extroverts, I encourage you to become comfortable with sitting in stillness.

Practically this might look like stripping back your calendar. I’m talking about unnecessary meetings, appointments, social media time, or Netflix time. It takes practice to become more accepting of this stillness. Get comfortable with just being and not doing. This could be a life’s work – best you start now! What if tomorrow you said no to one thing and said yes to a relaxing bath instead?

2 | Get to know imperfection and mediocre

I’ve always been a perfectionist. Less so after children, and even less after deciding that I want a slower life. Chasing perfection has always meant I’m constantly on the go, hustling, exhausted, and busy. Now I prefer to let a few things go. Like that washing on the line.

Sometimes good enough is just good enough. We can do our best without running our tank empty every time. What if tomorrow you choose to sit and admire the LEGO pile on the floor instead of picking them up?

3 | Let your inner child out to explore and play

One of the favorite stories from my childhood is a Little Golden Book – Santa’s Toy Shop. It describes how Santa and his elves are very busy all year around making all the toys for children in the workshop. And on Christmas Eve, he goes out to deliver all the presents and at the last stop, ‘he unpacked all the toys, but he did not hustle right away. Not this time!’. Instead, he set-up those toys he spent all year making and darn-well played with them!!!

I’d like to think that once in awhile, we could stop and play. Hang out in the home we’ve worked so hard to create and just enjoy it. What if tomorrow you just choose to use your home as a playground and channel that inner child?

Learning how to let go of busyness as my measuring stick has been one of the hardest lessons. But every inch of this journey is worth it. I’m happier, calmer and more present for my family.

This journey can be yours too. Are you ready?

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The ONE THING You Need to Know To Be Able To Get Off the Hamster Wheel http://becomingunbusy.com/know-what-you-want/ Mon, 09 Apr 2018 17:55:48 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7256 It is easy to get caught up in what others are doing or who we think we ought to be. We end up running in circles living someone else’s life. Krista O’Reilly Davi-Digui of A Life In Progress shares an important tip for getting off (and staying off!) the spinning hamster […]

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It is easy to get caught up in what others are doing or who we think we ought to be. We end up running in circles living someone else’s life. Krista O’Reilly Davi-Digui of A Life In Progress shares an important tip for getting off (and staying off!) the spinning hamster wheel.

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He has built up a life of comfort and ease: college funds, a big house, money in the bank. And he is so unhappy. He has a dream but feels like a fool – a real man would take the practical route. He’s afraid to tell his wife the truth about what he wants most. But he cannot bear another 20 years walking in someone else’s path.

She has multiple degrees and the student loans to prove it but sobs as she tells me the truth: all she really wants is to come home and raise her babies. She knows what she wants but is afraid of what everyone else will think. She is so tired of living this facade.

Here’s the key, the one thing you need to get off the hamster wheel:

You need to know what YOU want most in this world.

It’s so easy to get caught up in other people’s dreams or ideas of what you “should” do with your life. It can feel scary realizing that you’ve changed your mind about what you want or need and it’s hard and messy work, but worthwhile work, to tell the whole truth and change the trajectory of your life mid-stream.

 “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” — Steve Jobs

When you know what you want most, life won’t become magically easy, but you’ll walk with greater confidence, calm and clarity.

But what if you aren’t yet certain what it is you most desire out of life? What if you feel stuck trying to figure this all out?

  • Is it other people’s accolades or acceptance that you want most or is it a life aligned with your primary dreams and values that is most important to you?
  • Will you be content at the end of your days having been really wealthy and well-known even if you were desperately yearning for something altogether different?

Are you ready to sift through all the noise and your competing desires to find clarity about what you want to create with the life you’ve been handed?

5 Tips To Help You Decipher And Know What YOU Want Out of This One Precious Life

Don’t spend your whole life going through the motions, joyless, or miserable if you have any power of choice. Will you have the courage to follow your heart and intuition? Below are five tips to help you know what you want out of life — or at least get started.

1 | Tune in to your inner voice

Put blinders on for a while so you can learn to listen to your own thoughts, desires, and opinions. Carve out some white space in your life to sift through all your messy or competing desires and aspirations to get to the crux of what you most desire from this life. In a noisy world, this takes conscious effort. Time for contemplation and solitude can help.

2 | Get honest with yourself

Identify your personality and energy ebb and flow, your unique combination of strength and struggle, the life you dream of and the things that make you happy and all the stuff you don’t care about at all. If you peel away the expectations and pretense, who are you are the core, and who do you choose to be?

3 | Shift from fear to curiosity

You will need to challenge fear if you are to break from status quo. One of the best ways to do this is to shift from fear into curiosity. You can choose to open up to new possibility and loosen your grip on a particular, perfect outcome. Keep in mind that struggle or changing your mind don’t mean you’re a failure; like two steps forward and one step back, they’re simply part of the dance.

4 | Learn to Pivot

There is nothing wrong with pivoting into a new career or life direction; this is a healthy part of growth and a rapidly-evolving economy. You can do this work slow and steady rather than in one big leap, taking into consideration your strengths, interests, and life experience.

5 | Stop making yourself wrong

You’re not wrong if you love quiet and solitude; you’re not wrong if you love the buzz of crowds and a teeming life. You’re not wrong if you’re middle-aged and only now coming to understand what you most want from life. You’re not wrong if you’ve made mistakes or lost your way or if you’re determined to show up joyfully each and every day. You’re not wrong.

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BONUS TIP: Take imperfect action

You don’t have to see the full path ahead to take the first step and you don’t have to know how to do anything perfectly to test the waters. Break down your vision into small steps and just get started. Planning and practical thinking ahead are wise but the only way to really figure out your path is in stepping out and getting your hands dirty.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.

Will you risk letting go of the safety of what is familiar, acknowledging what it is that you really want, and then step out into that unknown?

It’s never too late to do the inner work to truly know what you want most from your life. Then you can move forward with greater confidence, calm, and clarity and climb off the hamster wheel once and for all.

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5 Roadblocks To Simplifying That Will Stop You In Your Tracks http://becomingunbusy.com/roadblocks-to-simplifying/ Thu, 15 Mar 2018 13:18:30 +0000 http://becomingunbusy.com/?p=7231 If one of these five roadblocks to simplifying is holding you back, take one small step today. Build your UnBusy Life. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Do your thing.  . . . An abundance of people worldwide are waking up to the idea that they no longer need […]

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If one of these five roadblocks to simplifying is holding you back, take one small step today. Build your UnBusy Life. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Do your thing. 

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An abundance of people worldwide are waking up to the idea that they no longer need to live a busy, over stimulated and fractured life. While minimalism is without a doubt ‘on trend’ in interior design, people are also starting to apply the concept of simplifying in a broader sense across their lives.

If you are one of those people, with a life so full you don’t know which way to turn next, you might have decided that you want to embark on a journey to simplify your life. In fact, that’s probably why you are here.

5 Roadblocks To Simplifying

But, you might find one or more of these roadblocks to simplifying stop you in your tracks.

1| Your life feels too complicated

Firstly, recognize that this is a journey that will take time. It’s unrealistic to think you can drop everything and hibernate to a cabin in the woods. But there is something, something small you can do today to release the pressure.

I like to imagine my life as a spiderweb. Each strand represents a part of my life, small or big. And at the core of the web is my ‘why’ or my purpose. Why do I do all the things I do? If each strand isn’t deeply connected to my ‘why’ it will weaken the whole structure.

Take a strand of your web at a time and ask yourself if it matches up to your why. Does it help you get closer to who you want to be as a person, and what you want to do with your life? If no, then perhaps this is the first strand to consider letting go of.

2 | You don’t have time

This was me. The idea of simplifying sounded great but also sounded downright time consuming and I already had an overflowing calendar. I sat on ideas about decluttering and taking steps towards a more curated life for months… and months. What I didn’t realize was that all I needed to do was take one tiny movement towards that life.

This is not a race. It’s a journey that might take you years. Remember that each small step you take to simplify (I’m talking practically here, like the regular use of a meal planner or setting up a capsule wardrobe) is going to save you time in the future. Some systems to simplify do take time to set up but the payoff will eventually outweigh your initial input.

Curate your life. You — and only you — have the ability to decide what you want in your life and what you want out. #quote #simpleliving #BecomingUnBusy *Love this quote and this site

3 | You are saving items for a rainy day

Perhaps you have decided to start your simplifying journey with your physical belongings. There are so many different methods to do this. And one of the most common struggles that arise when decluttering is the ‘just in case’ mentality.

You haven’t used your popcorn maker in three years but you keep it because you might need it one day? Sound familiar? Sell it or give it away, reclaim the space in your cupboard and buy yourself a coffee with the proceeds! If you do find yourself in a position of needing a popcorn maker in the future – maybe you could pop the corn on the stovetop or find one to borrow?

I think this is particularly relevant for those big ticket items you purchase for one-off jobs. I love the concept of tool or toy libraries for this exact reason. Borrow the items for a fraction of the price!

Adopt a simple rule such as ‘if it hasn’t been used in the past two years, I get rid of it’, and stick to it.

4 | You suffer from FoMo when it comes to social media and entertainment

One way our lives can feel incredibly complicated and busy is via the excess consumption of social media and even traditional mediums of entertainment. And one of the main reasons this happens (besides from not being intentional about screen use) is FOMO – fear of missing out. We keep refreshing our feeds every few minutes just in case. This ‘just in case’ mentality is keeping our brains in overdrive to the point where we feel exhausted just looking at our computer screens.

Take some time to consider a digital detox. This doesn’t need to mean giving up Facebook. It might simply mean intentionally curating your feeds so that we have less to see and see more of what matters.

5 | There is hard ‘heart’ work that needs to happen

Sometimes simplifying your life means working through some big emotional barriers. Part of simplifying might mean letting go of relationships that don’t serve you or even harm you. This is hard but important work and will ultimately help you get closer to simplifying your life.

Physical decluttering often involves big decisions around sentimental items. There’s no easy answer here and every person and every item may have a different outcome. But taking the time to work through these things will bring a sense of freedom and accomplishment.

Slowly but surely

Build your simple life slowly but surely. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. Do your thing.

If one of these roadblocks is holding you back today, decide to take one small step to tackle it. Good things take time, and simplifying is a good thing!

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