When was the last time you intentionally made time for self-care? Do you feel guilty walking away from your family or partner and taking time for yourself? In your heart, you know that taking care of yourself is part of taking care of others.
"Taking care of yourself is part of taking care of others." — Jennifer Williamson
Do You Feel Guilty About Self-Care?
Society and media portray self-care as a luxury. Think about how many commercials, tv shows, or movies you've seen over the years with a woman taking a bubble bath or eating expensive chocolate. It may seem cliche, but this "luxury message" is repetitively fed to women in subtle ways.
If this self-care quote gave you pause, you might have internalized the luxury message without realizing it. If we've internalized the message that self-care is a luxury, when we make time for ourselves, we subconsciously label it extravagant or indulgent and feel shame or guilt.
What Is Self-Care, Really?
Self-care is making time to be the best version of YOU.
In your heart, you know that when you take time for self-care, you are a better friend, employee, sister, partner, mother, grandmother — it allows you to be the best version of yourself for the people (and goals) that matter most to you.
Reset Your Self-Limiting Belief
Moving forward when you feel guilt or shame, practice shifting that self-limiting belief to an abundant mindset:
It is selfish to make time "just for me" when there is so much to do →
When I practice self-care, I'm the best version of myself for the people I love.
If you need to, write it on a post-it and put it in your sock drawer for a daily reminder.
Words Of Encouragement ♥️
I'm glad you stumbled across the site today. It is a powerful experience when our hearts call us to question our beliefs or subconscious. Something within you is shifting. This self-care quote spoke to you, and you took action — you dug deeper.
You are not alone on this journey, my friend.
Give yourself props for being willing to question your subconscious. Just changing this ONE mindset is a huge deal.
Your Next Steps
- Watch your thoughts for that self-limiting belief and practice transitioning to an abundant mindset. It sounds silly, but saying the statement outloud helps!
- Write a list of self-care ideas for yourself and make time for at least one self-care activity this week.
Reset And Make Space For A Simple Life
Can you feel the importance of this inner work? Simplifying is not just about uncluttering but also about shifting our mindsets.
Each month, in the private UnBusy Collective (our community membership), we offer mindset reflections and then come together to learn from one another's stories. The meet-ups are empowering and enlightening.
Would you like to experience one of the membership meet-ups? On occasion, we invite a guest or two from the waiting list to our group events. Join the list and stay tuned for the next opportunity!
I have learned so much in these group meetings. The way sharing is facilitated, so we each have our own voice (no dialogue or giving advice), and then sharing what others said that helped us is soooo powerful. We hear inner wisdom from ourselves and those around us when we listen. — Mari S.